Don't Feel Guilty : Be Selfish

Posted by Dexie

Let's face it, mothers are known to be martyrs. There's nothing wrong with that but for our sakes, we should also think about ourselves besides our kids, hubby, bills, chores, relatives, friends and among other things.

Who and What do we think about first when we go to bed and wake up in the morning?. Not ourselves that's for sure.

Who gets the burnt grilled cheese sandwich for lunch? Not your kids, that for sure. Probably not even your pets.

When you're about to take a bite of the last chocolate chip cookie, then your child comes running into you with his/her begging look, what do you do? Uh huh.

Who gets the last piece of pizza for dinner?

When you're finally in the bathroom getting ready to take a shower, how long do you plan on doing that for yourself? 5 minutes tops, I'm guessing.

Who is the last person to sit in the dining table when it's dinner time?

I must admit though, it is taking me a long time to get over my own feeling of guiltiness. When I'm working out for 45 minutes, my mind wanders coz I could be doing other things. I feel guilty because I could be playing with my kids during those 45 minutes. When my husband buys me a chocolate bar on a Friday night, I feel guilty hiding it from my son. When he asks me if he could have 1 jar of my Whips Yoplait yogurt, I cave in and tell him OK even though he has 2 boxes of his own Trix Yogurt. Once in a while, when I have a coupon I buy myself the V8 Fruit Fusion drink and of course my son wants to have some too even though he has his own jars of Juicy Juice or Kool-Aid.

My husband would always tell me to stop doing that. I should be firm in having my own yogurt, juice and enjoy my chocolate bar. It's hard but I know I need to do it.

As a parent, and as a mother, we'd lay down our lives, respectively, for our kids and for everyone we love, do they have to have the treats that we reward ourselves once in a while? Doing things for yourself does not mean you love them any less. It's a way of telling them, "you know what, I matter too".

If I don't do it for myself, no one would.

So the next time you tell your kid to be quiet becaue you want to be able to watch your daytime soaps peacefully, don't feel guilty. There's always commercials and watching someone in the TV monitor deal with every hardships in life, it makes you count your blessings. Right? At the end of the day, you'd say, "oh wow, Thank goodness my life is not the complicated". So you see, you'll experience an epiphany by taking that time for youself to be selfish.

The next time you take a bite of a chocolate bar, think this, your child doesn't need all that sweets anyway.

When you're feeling guilty doing your Tae-Bo kicks, think this, you will live a long and healthy life to witness your children grow up, go to college, get married and have his/her own kids.

So stop feeling guilty because it's ok to be selfish.

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julie said:

:D I can totally relate. My husband is like that too. Wouldn't want to eat those Kisses we buy because those are for the kids. Would let them use the laptop and the pc even if he has a deadline to meet. Would not touch the last pizza slice even if every one is full because one of the kids might get hungry in a while and look for the last slice.

I seldom feel guilty with the small pleasures I get like uninterrupted time in the bathroom or my own chocolate bars which they don't like. I deserve these small pleasures because I work hard, not just for myself but especially for them. :)

Posted at 09:49 PM, on April 14 2007

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lisaflor said:

You're right. I'm a single mom and my Mama takes care of my son while I work. And Mama keeps telling me to "go to the gym and trim my tummy" (which hasn't gone to normal since I gave birth). But gym costs so much and I feel guilty for spending for something I think is not really that important. But again, you're right. How will I get a new dad for my son if I look horrible? Hehehe... (still I hope there's a fitness center that doesn't cost much) :-)

Posted at 09:19 PM, on April 15 2007

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dexie said:

Julie:

". I deserve these small pleasures because I work hard, not just for myself but especially for them. :)"

Exactly!!

LiasFlor -- I can't afford gym either that why I rely on DVD's and my living room. You can do it :).

Posted at 09:04 AM, on April 16 2007

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